I just came across this review of the book, Indie Spiritualist – A No Bullshit Exploration of Spirituality by Chris Grosso.
I haven’t read the book yet, but the review is compelling, and even more worth reading is the excerpt from the book itself, which starts with a quote by Thich Nhat Hahn and goes on the acknowledge the reality that most of us face when we try and embrace the concept of self love. That reality? We are really bad at it.
Just last Sunday I watched a question and answer period with Thich Nhat Hahn in which a woman told him that she and her husband had been told by some “counselor” (I shudder to think…) that she was not a real woman and he was not a real man, and here was how they could fix this. She said this had really messed up their relationship. Sheesh.
Thich Nhat Hahn told her that she was beautiful exactly as she was. He went on to add that gay men are beautiful, lesbians are beautiful. We are all exactly as we are, and that is beautiful, and our task is to love ourselves as we are. Not fix that. Love it.
So, hard as this task is… Have at it! Read Grosso’s excerpt for a little more insight into this challenge.